How Hannah Found a High-Value Man in 2 Months After Divorce (With 8 Kids and a Narcissistic Ex)

If you’re a high-achieving woman who secretly wonders:

“Are there actually any good men left… or am I just meant to do this alone?”

I want you to meet Hannah.

She has eight children.
She was married for 20 years to a narcissistic abuser.
She’d been single for almost six years.

And within two months of working my process, she met a man who:

• Drives four and a half hours to take her on a full-day first date

• Asks, “Can I date you intentionally?”

• Turns off his dating apps on his own (without trying to control her)

• Cherishes her, respects her, and wants to join her life, not take it over

This is Hannah’s story—
and it’s the story I want you to borrow as proof that you’re not ruined, you’re not too much, and it’s not “too late.”

BEFORE: “What if I attract another man like my ex?”

By the time she found me, Hannah had been single for almost six years after a 20-year marriage.

She wasn’t single because she “couldn’t find anyone.”
She was single because she was terrified of repeating her past.

• Her ex-husband had been a narcissistic abuser.

• She didn’t fully understand what in her mindset and patterns had made her vulnerable to him the first time.

• She did not trust herself to pick a different kind of man.

Her words:

“My biggest challenge was fear of attracting the same type of man I had to divorce.
I didn’t trust myself that I would be able to discern adequately… to protect my peace and my family.”

Sound familiar?

You’re successful. You’re smart. You’re not naive.

But when it comes to love, there’s this quiet panic:

“What if I miss the red flags again?”
“What if I get love-bombed and trauma-bonded all over again?”
“Maybe it’s safer to just stay single.”

That’s exactly where Hannah was.

THE SHIFT: “I deserve to be loved, respected, and adored.”

Hannah found me on Instagram.

She listened to my content, booked a call, and on that first call I asked her the question I ask every woman:

“On a scale of 1–10, how committed are you to finding a healthy, equal partner?”

She said: “I’m a 10. Actually… I’m an 11.”

That level of commitment matters.

She joined Love Unlocked and the High Value Woman’s Playbook, plus our community, the High Value Woman Collective.

Very quickly, the inner shift started:

• From “I don’t trust myself” → “I can learn to discern.”

• From “Maybe I’m safer alone” → “I’m allowed to want partnership.”

• From “What if I get hurt again?” → “What if this time I choose well?”

She said:

“Coming to agree with you that I deserve to be loved, respected, and adored…
that was huge.”

THE PROCESS: The 7-Step Strategy in Real Life

I teach a 7-step strategy to help high-value women find a high-value man and get him to commit.

Here’s how Hannah actually used it.

1. She rebuilt her self-image and filters

Inside Love Unlocked, we:

• Clarified her values and what a healthy, equal relationship looks like for her

• Walked through the Four Keys of a Healthy Partner (communication, follow-through, emotional safety, shared vision)

• Used journaling and modules to rebuild self-trust and release shame

Her takeaway:

“It was empowering to know I wasn’t just winging it.
There was an intentional framework and actual metrics to see if a man was healthy.”

2. She created a magnetic dating profile (not a desperate one)

This is where most women go wrong. They write a profile that’s basically a job description for a man.

We did the opposite.

Together we:

• Sent her to get professional photos (including a red dress shot that was way out of her comfort zone)

• Crafted prompts that highlighted the beauty and warmth of her life

• Positioned her profile as an invitation to join her world, not a list of demands

One of the lines we wrote described her Sunday evening:

“Slow roast in the oven, red wine, and laughter around the table…”

That sentence ended up changing everything.

Her new partner later told her:

“I stopped my scroll when I saw your smile.
I could feel your joy.
That Sunday dinner line? That is my ideal of a beautiful life.
I just wanted to be part of your life.”

Good men are wired to join your life, not take it over.

Your profile should answer the question:

“What is it like to be with you?”
not
“What hoops must you jump through to be worthy of me?”

3. She used dating apps as a tool, not a trauma machine

Hannah was understandably skeptical of dating apps.

She expected chaos. (And she got it… at first.)

We:

• Chose Bumble for its structure and safety

• Set expectations: “The first couple weeks will feel like a circus. You’ll get clowns before you get the ringmaster.”

• Put clear safety rules in place: no addresses, always FaceTime before meeting, no WhatsApp scammers, etc.

• Used our community and 1:1 support as a processing space when weird profiles, jerks, or scams popped up

At one point she got emotionally hooked by what turned out to be a straight-up scammer.

Because we were working together, she caught it, protected herself, and stayed in the game.

There were nights she wanted to delete every app, pour a glass of wine, and say, “Never again.”

What kept her going?

“You’d asked me how committed I was. I told you I was a 10 or an 11.
I reminded myself: I made this commitment because I believe he’s out there.
I couldn’t give up yet.”

Commitment is the difference between a woman who scrolls for four days and a woman who meets her partner in two months.

THE LOVE STORY: The Man on the Mountaintop

One night, on a business trip in a bigger city, Hannah opened her app to nearly 70 new likes.

She started scrolling:

“Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope…”

Until one photo stopped her cold.

A man on a mountaintop.
Baseball cap.
And tucked into his hat: a feather.

Her five-year-old daughter has a gift for finding feathers everywhere they go.
That tiny detail felt like a God-wink.

He was also objectively handsome. But it was the feather that made her think,

“There’s something different about him.”

She matched with him.

Her opener (one of the prompts we’d crafted):

“What’s the last thing that made you really smile?”

His answer wasn’t a cheesy line or a sexual innuendo.

He said he’d finally mastered a skill he’d been working on for a long time—
and that long-term effort and growth makes him smile.

That’s a high-value answer.

Within a few messages he said,

“I’d like to meet you in person.”

Not endless text purgatory.
Not late-night “wyd?”

He asked if he could call her at a set time. Then he actually called at that time.

They talked by phone.
Then FaceTimed.
Then he said:

“I’d like to drive out and spend the day with you.”

He got up early, drove four and a half hours, and took her on a full-day first date.

At the end of the day, he said:

“I’d like to ask you something important.”

Her body remembered her ex, who proposed two weeks in. She braced herself.

“Don’t ask me to marry you,” she laughed. “You’ll blow it if you do that.”

He smiled and said:

“I’m not asking you to marry me.
I’m asking if I can date you—intentionally.”

No assumptions. No pressure. Just clarity and respect.

He also told her he was turning off his apps…
but he didn’t demand that she do the same.

That’s what healthy looks like:

• Intentional

• Clear

• Secure in himself

• Not controlling her autonomy

She chose to turn off her apps too.
Not because she was cornered into it—because she wanted to.

Today, her kids see a version of their mother who is:

• Happy

• Cherished

• Glowing

“My children are seeing a very happy version of me,” she said.
“He’s secure. He doesn’t need to control a woman to feel validated.”

That’s the point.
Not just getting a boyfriend, but creating the possibility of a peaceful, equal, emotionally safe partnership that is good for you and your family.

WHAT YOU CAN STEAL FROM HANNAH’S STORY

Here are the lessons I want you to take personally:

1. You’re not safer alone. You’re safer with better filters.
   Staying single out of fear is a trauma response, not a strategy.
   Safety comes from knowing how to discern a healthy man—not from hiding from love.

2. Dating apps aren’t the problem. Using them blindly is.
   When you treat apps like a slot machine, you get chaos.
   When you treat them like a tool—with boundaries, strategy, and support—they can connect you to someone you’d never meet otherwise. (Her man lives 4+ hours away.)

3. Your profile should sell your life, not your pain.
   Hannah didn’t lead with “I’ve been hurt” or “No drama, no games.”
   She led with the beauty, warmth, and joy of her actual life.
   That’s what high-value men want to join.

4. Community and coaching keep you from quitting at the worst moment.
   She almost deleted the apps. More than once.
   Having a coach, a framework, and a community is what kept her moving long enough to reach the good part.

5. Commitment is everything.
   If you’re a 3/10 committed to finding love, you’ll dabble.
   If you’re a 10/10, an 11/10 like Hannah… you’ll get uncomfortable, stay in the arena, and your life can change in a matter of months.

IF YOU SEE YOURSELF IN HANNAH…

If you’re a high-value woman—especially a single mom—who is:

• Successful in your career

• Smart and self-aware

• But scared of repeating old patterns

• And secretly wondering if an emotionally equal, healthy man even exists for you…

This is your invitation.

Inside Love Unlocked and the High Value Woman Collective, I help women just like you:

• Rebuild self-trust after divorce and narcissistic relationships

• Create magnetic, authentic dating profiles that attract healthy men

• Use dating apps as a strategic tool (not a trauma loop)

• Filter for emotionally available, high-value partners

• Build relationships that feel peaceful, passionate, and equal

Here’s your next step:

👉 Book a High-Value Woman Dating Strategy Call with me.

On this call, we’ll:

1. Audit your past patterns in love (without shame).

2. Get clear on the exact relationship you want next.

3. Map out your personalized strategy to find a high-value, emotionally equal partner—without losing yourself, your kids, or your standards.

If we both feel it’s a fit, I’ll tell you how Love Unlocked and the High Value Woman Collective can support you.

Because you are not broken.
Your last relationship was.
And like Hannah, you deserve a love story that feels like a confident expectation of good, not a gamble.