“Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” No — Losing Yourself to Keep One Is.

I Don’t Think Having a Boyfriend Is Embarrassing — But Losing Yourself in the Relationship Is

Last week, Vogue asked a question that made a lot of women stop and think:

“Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?”

At first, I laughed. Embarrassing? Love?
But the more I sat with it, the more I understood why it struck a nerve — especially for strong, independent women today.

Women aren’t embarrassed by being in love.
They’re embarrassed by what they’ve watched so many of us do inside love.

And I know this personally, because I’ve been that woman.

When I Lost Myself in Love

I spent years in a relationship where my entire identity got wrapped up in being someone’s partner. I didn’t do it intentionally — it happened quietly. Slowly. Subtly.

I stopped making decisions for myself.
I stopped listening to my intuition.
I stopped being the woman I was proud of… and started being the woman I thought I needed to be to keep the relationship.

And that’s what women are rejecting today.

Not men.
Not partnership.
Not love.

They’re rejecting the old version of themselves that disappeared to be chosen.

The Real Shift

Today’s woman — especially the woman who has fought for her career, her healing, her independence, her voice — is no longer willing to trade her identity for a relationship.

We’re not hiding boyfriends.
We’re protecting ourselves from becoming unrecognizable inside them.

We want to be seen for who we are — and then choose a partner who aligns with the life we’ve intentionally built.

And honestly? I’m here for it.

Because the healthiest love doesn’t require you to disappear.
The right relationship deepens your identity — it doesn’t replace it.

Why This Matters for the Way You Date

If you’re a woman who has worked hard to build a life you’re proud of — a relationship isn’t the goal.

A relationship that fits your life is the goal.

And that starts long before the first date. It starts with the way you introduce yourself to potential partners.

For better or for worse, your dating profile is the first doorway someone walks through to meet you.

Most women write their profiles to sound agreeable, “easy,” low-maintenance, and likable…
because we were conditioned to perform for approval.

But if you’ve built a career with intention, friendships with intention, boundaries with intention — why would you leave your dating profile as the only place where you shrink?

This is the era of identity-first dating.

Your Dating Profile Should Sound Like You — Not a Pleasing Version of You

Your dating profile isn’t an audition.
It’s a personal brand statement for love.

It should reflect:

• who you are
• what you value
• how you live
• what you’re no longer available for

Because the right man won’t be intimidated by your identity.
He’ll be drawn to it.

If You’re Ready to Date Without Losing Yourself…

This is exactly why I created the 3-Day Dating Profile Fix.

It’s a live, high-impact workshop where I walk you step-by-step through rewriting your dating profile so it reflects the real you — the grounded, self-aware, emotionally intelligent woman you’ve worked hard to become.

You don’t need more matches.
You need better alignment.

📍 If you’re ready to upgrade your dating profile so it reflects who you truly are, join the 3-Day Dating Profile Fix.
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Because love isn’t embarrassing.
Losing yourself to be chosen is.

And I refuse to let the women in my world make themselves small ever again.

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