How Megan Rebuilt Her Life After Divorce (Lost 55 pounds + Found Love Again)

Megan didn’t need a “fresh start.”

She needed a plan.

Because when your marriage falls apart and you’re suddenly a single mom… “just trust the universe” is not a strategy.

Megan was freshly divorced, a stay-at-home mom with two little girls, and staring at a life she didn’t recognize. No income plan. No confidence. No energy. No idea what came next.

And then—one year later—she texted me:

“I’m getting married.”

Her wedding is January 31st.

And we recorded this episode on Christmas Eve.

That’s not luck.

That’s what happens when a high-value woman stops spiraling and starts running a plan.

The Moment Everything Changed

Megan described it perfectly:

“It hits you when you realize… I don’t have a plan and I don’t know what I’m doing because everything I knew before has changed.”

The rug had been ripped out from under her.

But she also said something every woman needs to hear:

“I knew I had two kids and I couldn’t just curl up in a ball. I had to do something.”

That was the turning point.

Not motivation.

Not confidence.

Responsibility.

She looked at her daughters and decided:
They will not learn that “doing nothing” is an option when life gets hard.

Why She Knew She Needed Coaching

Megan wasn’t trying to “manifest” a new life.

She was trying to build one.

And the scary part of divorce isn’t just the heartbreak.

It’s the void:

• Where do I live?

• How do I support my kids?

• How do I stop feeling like I’m drowning every single day?

• How do I stop thinking small just to survive?

Megan told me her default goal was:

“I just need to get by.”

And I told her what I tell every woman who comes to me in crisis:

Don’t think small. Not now.

Because “getting by” is how women stay trapped in survival mode for years.

The Plan That Put Her Life Back Together

This is the part most women skip.

They try to heal emotionally without building structure.

So we did what high-value women do:

We treated Megan’s life like a business.

We built:

✅ A vision for her future
✅ A mission for her new season
✅ A plan with milestones
✅ A step-by-step execution strategy

And the framework was simple:

The 3-6-12 Goal System

Megan set:

• A 3-month goal (fast win = hope)

• A 6-month goal (momentum)

• A 12-month goal (identity shift)

Because when life feels overwhelming, you don’t need a “big leap.”

You need small wins stacked together until your brain starts believing:

“Oh. I’m actually doing it.”

Megan said it best:

“Your first goal gives you instant gratification—something I did, and it worked. That’s what keeps you going.”

The Results (This Is Where the “Glow Up” Started)

In less than a year, Megan did the thing that used to feel “impossible.”

She didn’t just rebuild.

She upgraded.

• She restarted her career and income plan

• She set goals that felt out of reach—and hit them

• And she lost 55 pounds

Not because she was chasing revenge.

Because she was chasing her future.

She said:

“These goals felt unrealistic… and we achieved every single one.”

This is what I want every woman reading this to understand:

When you’re rebuilding after divorce, you don’t need more willpower.

You need structure.

“I Told You to Get on Dating Apps… and She Said No.”

Megan makes me laugh because she’s honest.

When I encouraged her to get back out there, she basically said:

“You have lost your mind.”

And here’s what’s important:

Megan didn’t meet her fiancé on a dating app.

She met him in real life.

But she also admitted:

“The only reason I was open to meeting someone in real life is because I knew you were going to tell me again to get on the app.”

Translation:

She didn’t wait until she felt ready.
She got ready by moving.

That’s the entire point of coaching.

We don’t wait for confidence.

We build it.

The “Green Flags” Shift That Changed Everything

Megan told a story that I want every woman to steal:

She said she was obsessively scanning for red flags because she didn’t want to repeat her past.

And I stopped her:

“Stop looking for red flags. Start looking for green flags.”

Because if you look hard enough for danger…

You will find it.

So we rewired her lens:

• Can he communicate?

• Does he make her feel safe?

• Is he consistent?

• Does he have emotional maturity?

• Does she feel calm around him?

That’s how she started choosing differently.

And that’s how she met Vince—her fiancé.

The Moment She Realized She Was Self-Sabotaging

This part was raw.

Megan admitted she pulled away because things felt “too healthy.”

She said she didn’t call him for a day, and he asked what happened.

And she told him:

“I think I’m freaking out because I’m not concerned about anything.”

That is what happens after a toxic relationship.

Healthy love feels unfamiliar… so your nervous system panics.

But instead of running, Megan did something powerful:

She recognized it as a her moment.

And she returned to the plan.

What Her Daughters Noticed

This is the line that made me emotional:

Megan’s kids told her:

“Mom, you’re so much happier.”

They also told her she was “less strict” now.

And Megan laughed:

“I’m just not in a terrible mood all the time.”

This is what women don’t realize:

When you heal…
your kids heal too.

Not because life gets perfect.

But because the emotional weather in your home changes.

Megan’s Advice to You (If You’re Freshly Divorced)

She said:

“You don’t stay where you’re at. You keep moving forward. You make a plan.”

And then she dropped the truth:

“When you don’t have a support group, and you don’t have someone who believes in you when you don’t believe in yourself… that changes everything.”

She said joining the community and having coaching didn’t just help.

It changed the trajectory of her life.

If This Is You, Read This Twice

If you’re freshly divorced…

If you feel like the rug got pulled out from under you…

If you’re a single mom staring at a new life and thinking:

“I don’t even know where to start.”

Here’s the truth:

You don’t need to be “stronger.”

You need a plan.

And you need someone to help you run it.

Book a Dating Strategy Call (And Let’s Build Your Plan)

If Megan’s story hit you in the gut, it’s probably because you’re standing where she stood:

Overwhelmed. Unsure. Trying to survive.

On a Dating Strategy Call, we’ll map out:

• What’s keeping you stuck (and how to fix it)

• Your 3–6–12 month plan

• The exact plays you need to run to rebuild your life and open yourself to love again

• Whether you’re a fit for my coaching + the High Value Women’s Collective

You don’t need more time.
You need a plan.

Book your Dating Strategy Call